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Only if you’re a good girl.

I have a few stupid tricks that might help.

1. add a “daily house cleaning time” to a schedule. Every day, same bat time. 30 minutes, phones off, music on. Both of you get up and “return the house to the default state.”

2. clean the house once and take a picture of each room in the default state. Print the picture and put it on the door out of each room. Tell them that’s what you need the room to look like when you walk in. Phrase it as an accommodation for your mental health. Then they’re “helping a friend with a problem.”

3. Hard tasks get rewards. It doesn’t have to be anything major. Stickers work for my wife. Sour patch kids work for me. “Hard tasks” are anything we hate doing. We reward ourselves or each other. “thanks for cleaning the shower, it looks great. You get a sticker” “I went and talked to the crazy neighbor, I get some sour patch kids.” Our stupid brains don’t give us dopamine for doing the thing, so we have to trick them.

Yeah. I’ve been working in silicon Valley since 2009. I’ve worked everywhere from startups to Facebook. I was laid off a year ago. I did 25 applications a week for 6 months with 0 interviews or call backs. This was all stuff I have industry experience at and fantastic references for. Even the contract companies I worked with haven’t been able to find me anything outside of IT roles that require 24/7 on call paying $25/hr. I was making that in 2010. The job market for tech is nonexistent.

Cheers!

I don’t think it’s impolite. As an American migrant to a foreign country, it’s one of the first things most Americans ask each other.

I contracted at plex for 6 months. The employees really care. The developers were very concerned with making the absolute best media server possible. The QA team was doing crazy stuff to try to keep everything working.