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I thought I was agreeing with you for naïve comparisons between software products. But since you got into my example… I will have to say: from the problems you describe (like getting a signature by both management and HR), I barely see anything related to documentation of PostgreSQL (which was my point). And I struggle to see, for any of the issues you mentioned, how Windows SQL server is any easier. Plus, almost all organizations (Big and small) are using postgreSQL and not Windows SQL server.

Last but not the least, I can’t understand what you’re asking at the end: Does an “entrenched” anything sound “nimble” to you?

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To be honest, open source and documentation (plus, chatGPT correct answers) are way more coupled in some open sorce projects than Windows and all their magic tricks, error codes, and so on. The fact that there is some sort of commercial support that is bigger or better with proprietary software (generally speaking) is true and partially because of network effect. I do agree with you. But I think it depends on what are we comparing… e.g. Windows SQL server vs. Docker PostgreSQL. I rather stay with Postgres, since it runs all over the world.

As a professional opinionator, I…

The only truth in your statement is that I don’t need any dates. RStudio is my loyal waifu.

the number of posts is not that bad of a metric. you are confusing it with the number of comments, which would be correlated to the toxic behavior you just described. But, in general, the number of posts in any average community is a good metric for bringing content to the fediverse. If you know of any other metrics (better or worst) just tell… I don’t think there’s anything else. And a community needs posts more than anything. The comments may come and go, but I see them a bit as secondary/ accessory, and just a symptom of what’s going on within the community (in which case, we need to see if they’re constructive, positive, on topic, and so on.)

I always assumed that the toxicity is in the spores, so I second this…

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same happened with anarchism. I bet someone will come reply to me, saying that anarchism is actually bad because it means “chaos” and “no laws”, yada yada.

Regardless of what many comments say, your feelings are completely valid. I’d be upset too. It’s not like your dad is doing anything monstrous, but it’s plain stupid (to say the least). Sometimes, love is that way. It lasts whatever is needed for the people involved to learn some stuff.

Be patient. Your support will be needed, sooner or later. Even if the relationship doesn’t end at all. There will be drawbacks. If you don’t feel up to the ‘task’, cool. It’s not an obligation. Just keep your distance from it.

Btw, 19 is a good age to start living with some frens. Perhaps a talk with your Dad is due… do not make it about this situation (or not exclusively). You deserve your own space. I believe the need for it can be something that was already in the works, and now you are getting ‘hit’ by everything altogether and all at once with this situation.

Good luck!

this is self-hosting local-first apps. There’s some local-first manifesto somewhere… one of their greatest ‘backend’ developments were CRDTs. The idea, is that the app can be turned off, synchronization can be interrupted and resumed, and so on. Those CRDTs allow people to use a text editor even when the client(s) are disconnected from the server. Of course, depending on how much your version differs, the merge conflict of diverging versions will be easier to solve…

I’m from Argentina, and we’re indeed the best culture/ people/ country :)

ps. in case you haven’t met us before, we are proud and boast a lot.