As a parent, most of the worry is just unreasonable fear. If you want kids have them. Sure they are expensive, but they will take so much time you won’t be able to do a lot of the other things you were spending money on before. I find it well worth the costs (this is of course a matter of opinion)
I’ll add a caveat that one should take a look at daycare costs and such in their area first. There is a real financial setback that having kids can bring that shouldn’t be ignored if possible. There’s only so much money that cancelling going to concerts and brunch can offset things like daycare.
As a parent, most of the worry is just unreasonable fear. If you want kids have them. Sure they are expensive, but they will take so much time you won’t be able to do a lot of the other things you were spending money on before. I find it well worth the costs (this is of course a matter of opinion)
I’m only half of the decision tree, but I really appreciate your kind words of encouragement :) we’re trying, but cautiously.
To anyone trying - if you plan to use a daycare, get on their enrollment wait lists now. Those things are multiple years long! (In the US, at least)
I’ll add a caveat that one should take a look at daycare costs and such in their area first. There is a real financial setback that having kids can bring that shouldn’t be ignored if possible. There’s only so much money that cancelling going to concerts and brunch can offset things like daycare.
I say this as a parent as well.