Fridging is when a love interest gets killed just to push the main character forward. It used to mean a woman getting hurt to make a man act. Now it covers any partner dying to pump up the plot.

Here’s the cold truth. A romantic loss is the only loss that actually justifies losing your head over it. If your boyfriend or girlfriend dies, that grief can spiral into obsession or a need for revenge. That is story fuel. Everything else is background noise.

An uncle, a child, a best friend, a parent, a teammate getting killed is not tragic nor is it enough to be sad and enough to motivate you to be a hero. Those losses might be a little sad but they do not automatically justify turning your life into this crusade against injustice. They are not dramatic enough to demand you drop everything and hunt a killer down.

So yeah, fridging as a device works because romantic love is one of the few things audiences treat as absolute.

Whenever there is a story about a main character who is depressed because their best friend, parent, or child dies, I just can’t get into it, and I’m always like, “Please get over it,” because this isn’t enough to be depressed over, and it’s not enough to want to become a good person.

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    14 hours ago

    What an awful take. I hope you aren’t a parent if you expect a parent to just get over the loss of their child. You don’t expect people to be motivated by loss of any loved one other than a romantic partner? Really? No other kind of love is strong enough for you? I’ve reached my limit of stupid for tonight.

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      You don’t expect people to be motivated by loss of any loved one other than a romantic partner? Really? No other kind of love is strong enough for you?

      Honestly, no, I’m not saying friends or family members aren’t important, but they aren’t important enough to decide to get revenge, avenge or put on a costume to fight crime for. Or to just change your life around and be a good person

      In my opinion only romantic love should do that.

      My problem with Spider-Man is that Uncle Ben is the central motivation for Peter, and in my opinion, it’s dumb. I honestly don’t think Peter should have even gone to confront the killer. An uncle or any family member isn’t worth that.

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        13 hours ago

        At first I thought you just didn’t give a shit. Now I just think you’re a coward.

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          10 hours ago

          Tbh, I think OP is 15, has no real friends yet and has a rocky relationship with their family. And probably is in a relationship for the first time, still totaly high off the butterflies in their stomach.