My ex “K” just broke up with me. She said she would like to still be friends, though, and since the breakup was friendly, I gladly said I was fine with that.
I’m still in touch with my first ever partner after almost 8 years after the breakup. I still very much love them, but not romantically though, they’re a person i wouldn’t want to miss in life!
BUT even with them we only started being friends about 2 years after the breakup. I can say for myself my dumb ass wouldn’t be able to process that emotionally at an earlier point.
My last partner blocked me everywhere, but considering the circumstances i can’t blame them. We were both bringing out the worst in each other and the shit life threw at us was just too much to handle - depression, cancer diagnosis (i really hope they’re doing well) & financial troubles.
so it depends on the case.
You both need a time off, stop or make interactions really “rational and controlled”. It takes time to shift to different dynamic between you two.
Once you both (or at least one of you) get new partners, things will be more promising for a genuine friendship.
Otherwise, lingering feelings or “emotionally weak” days seriously risk ruining the relationship and make things permanently awkward.
source: my own experience. I am best friends with my ex. And lived the process myself.
Nope, they was abusive and controlling to me. I’m glad I did dump them via texts
No, but I wouldn’t be opposed with any of them but one. That one can go fuck herself.
I have had three serious relationships prior to my current one and I have lost contact with all of them.
None of the break ups were all that messy. In two of them we just grew bored of each other and the third one ended because I moved.
I never bothered to keep in touch with any of them or reach out to any of them. When it is over it is over.
I don’t see how I could downgrade the relationship to a “friends” level.
Ended a 16 year relationship a couple of months ago. No hard feelings, still friends. It’s easier that way :)
It’s actually my entire friend group rn lol. One of my exes from high school has been my best friend for 10 years. I made up with my ex I dated during college after a super messy break-up and now we hang out and watch anime together. Recently, I had a very short term long distance fling with a guy I met on here, and we still chat about gaming and politics and shit on Discord multiple times a week.
I’ve definitely had messy and bad relationships that were just unsalvageable, but I really don’t like throwing people away after I’ve shared a bunch of my life with them. The only weird part is how many of my friends have seen me naked.
I have been for quite a few of them. We’ve fallen out of contact now. I think it’s a good thing to be. But if either of you are heart broken, you need to cut off contact for a while to really get over them before you can be friends.
Im actually the kind to say when you break up move on. Still being friends is a recipe for many disasters. Especially once you’re in a long term or get married
Are you still friends with any of your axes
FTFY and yes
Buddy I’m not friends with anyone - despite my best efforts.
No
I still talk to my ex-wife since we had kids together. They are adults now so it’s a lot less that we talk but still amicable.
Yeah, just one. He left me for religious reasons (we’re both men). Took me a long time to actually get over him, but I moved on and married and such. The three of us hang out sometimes.
I do kinda wish I could convince him to be a little less religiously wacky. Oh well.
I know so many people in the community in relationships with religious wackos. What’s going on there?
I cannot speak for others. My ex was not religious when I met him. I feel like my experience isn’t similar to what you’ve encountered.
All of them yes. I make it a point to get back on friendship terms so there aren’t any open wounds or resentments festering. I want to wish them the best, so I do.
