• Gaja0@lemmy.zip
    48·
    6 days ago

    Me when I find out I exist because my father is bad at fantasy football 🤯

    • gwl@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      16·
      6 days ago

      Some children want to know who their sperm daddy is, even if only just through morbid curiosity

      • pelespirit@sh.itjust.worksM
        1·
        6 days ago

        Could you explain this comment to me? It’s been reported as the reason being:

        Racism, sexism, transphobia

        I might be dense on this, so I’m going to remove it until we figure it out. If you don’t care if it’s removed, then you can disregard this.

        • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
          42·
          6 days ago

          they’re a woman and if I had to guess they are bitter about men (this could be for lots of reasons; least of which is because 1 in 3 women are victims of sexual or partner violence and 1 in 5 girls have been a victim of rape or attempted rape, the vast majority at the hands of men; if not for a reason as extreme as that, at the very least it’s not uncommon that men feel a right to talk over women, to be in their personal space, to ignore or dismiss their perspectives, and to demand women do supportive labor for them like making the coffee, scheduling the meetings, keeping notes, etc. for them).

          She is saying as a woman it makes her feel men are worthwhile for being willing to be contacted like this, presumably because a man choosing to do so shows a sort of kindness or good will that is redeeming.

          Then, the reporter is probably a man who read her comment and felt wronged for being described as part of the “terrible gender”, and what was reported her “sexism” for referring to men as a “terrible gender”.

          Obbviously the racism and transphobia are irrelevant given the comment and context, as is the sexism since her bitterness is literally being tempered by a redeemable quality she is praising that men would be willing to do this …

          so yeah, I dunno - removing the comment & banning her feels like punching down based on an unreasonable claim of sexism, though she doesn’t help things by responding to your confusion with hostility and unwillingness to explain what she probably feels should be blindingly obvious (particularly because it’s an issue of injustice)

          • pelespirit@sh.itjust.worksM
            4·
            6 days ago

            I appreciate the explanation. You are definitely giving them the benefit of the doubt in your guessing. I am not in that headspace today since we had so much russian trolling from the russian troll post.

            If it makes you feel better, it’s just a temp ban to get over the usual trolling schedule. If they’re real, they’ll hopefully be back. If they’re not, they’ve already probably made a new alt.

            • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
              31·
              6 days ago

              oh I’m not meaning to call into question the wisdom of your temp ban given what you seemed to know at the time and the way she responded to you

              since she wasn’t willing to do the labor to explain herself I figured I would be willing to, esp. since as a woman I get where she’s coming from

              my comment was really just a desire to explain the context as it made sense to me, more than anything else