It could be the aging population. If 100% of people 20-40 have sex and 0% of 40-60 then that’s 50% if both groups are equally strong.
Now if it’s 1/3 and 2/3 then it’s only 33%.
Probably depression, online dating ruining the entire dating world, and the economy sucking.
I remember growing up, you could go to a bar with friends, meet some people and there was always someone hooking up quickly. Or you grabbed a phone number and you were good for later.
Now it’s more “are you 6 foot tall?” “do you make six figures?” “what’s your snap or insta?” “are you a racist nazi that will murder me in my sleep?”
Then they can always say, ehhh, your not attractive enough for me, i’ll go on tinder and DM one of the 60 guys waiting for me. BYEEEEEEEE
My wife and I go through hot & cold spells. I think we have similar drives, but our timing doesn’t always match up. I’m more of a “harness the power of the morning wood” sort of fellow. She’s more of a “I want it right now but he’s still at work” sort of gal. We both talk a big game, but work, childcare and adulting conspire against us.
People are just not very attractive nowadays
I blame the GenZ broccoli haircut.
World of Warcraft 😁
There’s a considerable uptick just before 2010, so WoW players must’ve been having lots of sex during WotLK years
From a top raid trainer at the time, “Knock down drag-out fight, killed 'em and looted ‘em. Finally log off at the end of the raid, and?’ WoW Players in WotLK say, ‘Tough fight. Boss is down, I’m alive. Finally get to bed at the end of the run, and?’ They all say, 'The best sex I’ve had in months.”
I’d say a larger part of the population being aware that they can reject “unsolicited requests” is a part of it.
Also, it requires meeting people to some extent. That sounds boring.
Gotta have both a partner and time to have sex ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Lack of genuine idle time breeds … non-breeding.
Women are avoiding men. For all sorts of reasons that I think most of you are aware of. It’s a huge turn off to be with someone who thing you are lower than them. Who thinks you don’t deserve basic human rights.
It’s a huge mood killer.
Women also are feeling like they have the ability to refuse when before they didn’t.
Women are also scared of pregnancy in a way they haven’t been since the fecking 1900s.
Because now, you get pregnant. A doctor will let you die before they will provide medical care if that medical care has any chance of harming a fetus. Even if the fetus is dead.
Women are dying from pregnancy. Women are no longer able to terminate an early pregnancy safely.
Women are scared.
*I realize not every sex encounter is a man and woman. But most of the population is hetero.
It’s a huge turn off to be with someone who thing you are lower than them. Who thinks you don’t deserve basic human rights.
While I don’t disagree with this theory, I wonder why you would think that this is a recent development.
The awareness is relatively recent. “The woman place is in the kitchen” is not an old thing.
Perhaps there is a comfort in expressing these beliefs now when before there was not?
That is what I thought I said, yes.
Can I also add in stress and other environmental factors?
9/11
Yes.
- People are more willing to be honest now.
- How much of that sex in the past had the same amount of consent?
It says 1990 not 1900!
You think 1990 where a time of full consent and awareness about other sensitivities? Oh boy.
Things were definitely different to today, but I think the factors you listed are not enough to explain the massive decline in that graph.
Things like economic insecurity, cost of housing, increasing isolation / changes in living circumstances, and medication are all likely to be significant factors in my opinion.
Spousal Rape Laws started getting enforced finally.
An ex once who told me that she had a rape fetish, was totally into it. I was against it but since she was longing for it so badly I told her “I‘ll do it during week 18 but I won’t tell you when” and she was excited.
Long story short: she enjoyed it while it lasted but cried afterwards because I was too harsh.
Years later I ran into her husband and it turned out that she has BPD.
I am very lucky to have had a written contract back then.
I think generally you’d want to start smaller when trying any CNC stuff. But hey, a lot of kinks exist only in our minds but aren’t something people want to try, and sometimes we find out the hard way. I hope you two have each other the aftercare needed to move past that.
Of course we did! CNC without aftercare is unacceptable
💜💜💜
So we’re gonna see it go back up?
Should I invest in sex now that it’s low?
Yes. Put it all on options.
I’ma short that shit to the ground
Like a short was really your choice. You’d love to go long, if you could.
I just find the concept hilarious. Borrow some expensive… sex… to then immediately sell it… then regularly pay lender with small amount of sex as a fee for the sex loan… then when the time is right buy some cheap sex, return sex to lender… and that’s how one gets sex when sex is in decline.
Nah its going to rock bottom
Maybe that’s the problem. A lot of the ladies I know say that sort of thing is uncomfortable.
Not if I have any say in the matter!
…yeah, it’s going to rock bottom.
Besides plenty of other reasons people mentioned, Gen Z in particular is pretty antisocial. I’ve seen them hang out at bars, they might get one drink and just stare at their phone. Just anecdotal, but from what I’ve gathered it definitely feels like those type of folk either don’t know how to have fun or are averse to it. I don’t mean that in a completely negative way, either. I think covid really made a lot of people in general more socially inept. Again, I don’t mean that to denegrate and I’ve definitely felt that a bit myself.
I’m a millennial who just spent the last 7 years at Uni/CC and I’m not seeing any of this. COVID had a huge impact, but in general things seem pretty much the same as when I was in school in the 90’s/early aughts, except they’re on smartphones instead of Nokias. They just seem normal to me.
Younger generations seem to treat basic conversation as cringeworthy. Like the fact that you’re even talking to them is seen as appalling, regardless of the context.
I’ve seen kids walk up to a register at a fast food joint, then act surprised and put off when the cashier asked for their order. Like the cashier was in the wrong for initiating a conversation. Oftentimes, the kid won’t even respond until the cashier is like “ooookay, uhh… If you’re not ready to order, can you step out of line?”
The best description I’ve seen for it is “they’re waiting for the dialog options to load.” Because it 100% looks like they’re just waiting for some external force to move the conversation along. It reminds me of when boomers get the lead paint stare while waiting for the card reader to finish reading their chip. The machine will just be dinging at them to remove their card, the cashier will be like “Uhh sir? Please take your card” and the boomer will act surprised. Like they were just stuck in a loading screen while the rest of the party was already pulling mobs.
