• Allero@lemmy.today
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    7 days ago

    On a serious note, don’t forget your partners in favor of kids (and vice versa)

    It’s important to pay close attention to both, and have what it takes to spark it with your partners even when you’re parenting.

    Don’t put someone on the first place.

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      7 days ago

      Any family that revolves around the children, will start tearing itself apart. The parental partnership should be the center of it. It provides the strength to teach and guide the kids, while not being led astray.

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        6 days ago

        Exactly! Parents are the first people the kid looks on as their family model, and only together can they provide the best care.

        It’s in the best interest of your child to be a happy loving couple first and foremost.

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          6 days ago

          It’s far from easy. That’s partly why it’s so important. They instinctively want to make you orbit around them. Without your combined strength counterbalancing this, they have no true reference to grow around.

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      6 days ago

      I’m lucky to have enough energy after doing what I am required to do every day, to acknowledge my spouse and make us some dinner.

      Nevermind paying close attention to anything.

      Luckily, my SO isn’t crazy and understands that we’re both busy with work pretty consistently. So there’s no real friction here. I know I’m fortunate to be in that situation, and I wouldn’t even suggest that’s not the case.