• 0 Posts
  • 15 Comments
Joined 3 years ago
cake
Cake day: June 13th, 2023

help-circle

  • The problem exists there in the space, independent of whether you personally experience it as a problem. The system was designed a certain way, and it’s not functioning as intended. Most cyclists are probably fine to cycle around it, but there’s still a problem there, and it would be wise to address it.

    It’s not just about how much space there is. Cycle lanes are important because having a clear delineation of what spaces are intended for what road users is a key part of how cycle lanes improve safety and efficiency in cities. As it stands, the cycle lane is not functioning as it should.

    Potholes in roads aren’t a huge deal for most drivers — it’s usually possible to navigate around them without much effort, and even if you do hit them, it usually doesn’t cause any damage. We still strive to fill in potholes though, because we acknowledge that a road isn’t meant to have them, and that keeping roads in good repair is a crucial part of making the system work.


  • TL;DR:

    • Fight if you can

    • Flee if you must

    • But always resist

    Connect with networks in your community. We need to rely on each others’ support to get through this, no matter how the situation develops


    The person who replied to you said “Fight”, and they’re not wrong, but I want to emphasise that there are people whose personal circumstances mean that they feel they need to flee, and that is okay. You should not feel guilty if this is something you genuinely need to do.

    If you need to flee, do so by relying on your community. Don’t do things along. Look for ways that you can resist while still keeping yourself safe, and use your community connections to support other people who need to flee. There are some people who are not as able to fight, but there are still ways they can contribute.

    To give an example of the kind of thing I mean (albeit in a far less explosive context, because I’m not in the US), I am physically disabled and have a bunch of other factors that mean I am not safely able to attend most protests, even as a legal observer. However, there have been a few times where I have been on standby, parked near the police station overnight, waiting for people to be released. This is because UK police tend to make a lot of arrests at protests and either not charge you, or charge you at a later point. They tend to let people out in the middle of the night, and they often do not have resources to travel home, or easy ways to contact people for help. When people in my network find out which station arrested protesters have been taken to, we can coordinate to ensure that there’s definitely going to be someone there when they are let out.

    Like I say, that’s an example from a very different political climate. Things on the ground where you are is changing so fast that I can’t possibly know what kind of support roles are both relatively safe, and useful right now. This is why it is crucial to connect with your communities. Figuring out what works is a work-in-progress, but I am confident that there are ways you can help contribute to the resistance efforts while also relying on your community to help you or your loved ones flee if you need to.

    Things are awful, and it sucks. Nothing is safe right now, even fleeing. But we have a duty to do whatever we can to reduce the harm done to the people in our communities. At times like this, all we have is each other, so let’s look after each other.








  • For me, I would say that the magnitude of my attraction is roughly 50/50, but qualitatively, the attraction I feel towards a man is distinct from what I feel towards women.

    A significant aspect that plays a role is also how I present to the world. From my appearance, most people would conclude that I am LGBTQ, and that usually means assuming I’m gay. This is useful because any bisexual’s dating pool is biased towards opposite sex partners; if I want to find gay or bisexual (or pansexual or asexual) women to date, it’s strategically useful to wear my sexuality on my sleeve, so to speak. This has the helpful side effects of filtering out the kind of straight asshole who says “why would you shave your hair like that? You might get more male attention if you made yourself look pretty”

    Sexuality is messy. The attraction I feel is pretty equal. How the world perceives me is more gay than straight (because the world likes to pretend that bisexuality doesn’t exist, and then act like I’m changing my mind when I “switch from being gay to straight” or vice versa (/facepalm). In terms of who I actually date or hook up with, the balance is probably skewed towards men. These three components (attraction, outward identification/presentation and behaviour) make sexuality complex, especially for bisexual people; I would wager that there are many people who identify as straight and have had no same sex relationships, but who experience some level of same-sex attraction. It also gets more complex when one considers that many people experience sexual attraction and romantic attraction differently. For example, I have a friend who is asexual, but homoromantic.

    You might find it interesting to read about the Kinsey scale, which looks at sexuality as a spectrum, with exclusively [homosexual/heterosexual] on the extreme ends of the scale, and degrees of bisexuality between them.





  • I loved playing as a Malkavian. My late best friend said that it might not be best to play as a Malkavian for one’s first run at the game because of all the weird shit, and I replied “oh, now that’s sealed it for me, I’ve got to pick Malkavian”.

    I like how a perceptive player of a Malkavian can pick up so many hints and clues. Like how >!spoiler [minor spoiler][your character refers to Therese and Jeanette as “daughters of Janus”, or how the thinblood Malkavian near the start of the game says “don’t open it”]!<

    Edit: formatting