man we are all gonna end up in Gain Ground

You know, fairy tales for children generally involved horror, murder, dismemberment and worse.

To get the kids to be aware of the actual horrors of the world, which are worse.

Hearing a story about, or seeing a fictional or even actual video of some of the fucked up shit people do to each other for stupid fucking reasons is still not actually traumatic.

Experiencing depictions of such shit should absolutely bother you. Should absolutely put you a bit on your toes, in real life, on the daily.

So you can avoid those situations. So you know shit like that’s possible, and fucked up fuckers have done it and will do it, and they’ll think they’re right the whole time.

Because when it does actually happen, that’s when it is traumatic, and not just being smart and aware

Ruining your day isn’t ruining your life.

Life sucks. Get a helmet

eh, shit i’ve read and seen on a screen, while it may have bothered me at the time, isn’t actual trauma, which does not fucking ask permission.

And yeah, there’s media that triggers that-but it’s media. I close it. I leave. I can. it’s not actually happening to me, right now.

I think it’s a decent notion, to annotate. It’s for sure people trying to be good for one another, and that’s laudable.

But. As I said, the worst of the world does not ask permission, and I think enforcement of content tags or what have you would likely lead directly to even more oppression and censorship in the storm of that which we are currently in.

I will say ao3’s pretty on point about it, from what i’ve seen-it’s voluntary, and it’s actually voluntary. How you keep that across the ages is anyone’s guess

Sounds like a fuckin banger of an existence

whoa there einstien, jam your big fat brain back down on this dollar shaped toast

*not a dig at you, btw. It’s the obvious answer, I just hate the world right now

ugh. Living in vehicles can work-I’ve done so most of my life-but not in a fucking toyota corrola

So your parents are landlords.

and are raking in the rewards of their tenants paying rent

jerk yourself to death, scumbag

I didn’t say some contexts, I said ALL contexts.

And did I shove my hand in your pants? Are you scared right now? Did I physically “Help you ‘adjust your scarf’”, unasked, uninvited, unwanted.

Is a larger, stronger, fucking ape with more (completely unwarranted) social backing looming above you right now?

And guess what, you dumb motherfucker? I’m male. I have a penis. I’m cis. But:

I have actual friends who are women, and they trust me enough to tell me the fucked up shit that happens ON THE FUCKING DAILY in their lives.

jerk yourself off to death, you fucking MRA scumbag

when i was younger and stupid and in the (glass) closet i was dating the son of a pharmacologist. this man had made millions developing medications. he was fond of me and privately told me i was too funny and smart to be dating boys.

he also said that it was incredibly unlikely that sexism will ever be resolved in the medical field. that the majority of medications i will ever take - even some of which are “for women” - will not be clinically tested on my body.

the problem, he said, was in getting any human clinical trial approved.

to test on a body with a uterus - any body, even elderly patients or those who have been sterilized - was often nigh-impossible, because the concern was that the test patient may, at any point, become pregnant.

once/if the patient became pregnant, the study would not be about “the effects of New Medication on the body.”

instead, the trial would fail - the results would be “the effects of New Medication on a developing fetus/pregnant patient.”

it was massively easier, he said, to just test without accounting for a uterus.

that’s how he phrased it - accounting for a uterus.

at the time, i remember him talking about the ethical implications of testing on a developing fetus; how such testing could theoretically bankrupt a company if a lawsuit was filed. he talked about informed consent and about how long it took for any legislation to be passed about this -

• that in 1993; the year i was born, it finally became illegal to outright exclude women and minorities from clinical trials.

i remember him shrugging. “that’s not to say it doesn’t happen,” he said. my ears were ringing.

i was thinking about how every time i have been rushed to the ER, the first thing they have asked me is if i am pregnant.

when i broke my wrist at 16 years old - despite never having had sex - they made me wait three hours for the test to come back negative before they gave me pain meds. the possibility of a child haunts my health.

how many people have died on the table because they were waiting for the pregnancy test before treatment.

how many people have died on the table because they were pregnant, and the only thing we care about is the fetus.

it is hard to explain to other people, but it feels like some kind of strange ghost. our entire lives, we are supposed to “save” our bodies for our future partners. but really we are just saving the body for the future child, aren’t we? that hovering future-almost that cartwheels around in a miasma. you can’t get your tubes tied, what if you change your mind? think of the child you must have, eventually. who cares about you and your actual safety. think about what you could be carrying.

Freedom is something you take. Whether for yourself or another, and it’s always from some fucking duechbag who wants slaves and not equals

You are a fucking chode

Well I don’t know, but have you had six separate $150+ appointments with your doc who asks you questions ranging from “well what does your boyfriend of two weeks want” to “are you really sure?” to “we’re going to have to ask you attend this six week course on why it’s important to produce a legacy before we can sign off on this. Then we’ll see what your insurance has to say”

if they assume he’s the inferior parent, why do the men win custody almost every fucking time they try, whereas the woman involved gets the kid dumped on her, completely, with no child support orders unless she fights for them, anytime the guy doesn’t want anything to do with the kid he knocked her up with?

you ain’t been around a whole lot of the states, have you

No offense (lie) but cry me a fuckin river. Is it shitty, stupid, fucked up, and should be stopped? Sure! Wholeheartedly agree.

But framing it the same verbiage of something that KILLS LITTLE GIRLS or MAIMS THEM BEYOND BEING ABLE TO PISS let alone have a functional set of genitalia if they get to grow up

is fucking retarded

The varies WILDLY in how and when it is enforced, you fucking buffoon. Why isn’t trump in prison for fucking ever right now?

I’ve never even heard of someone else collecting felonies like beanie babies and not spending the rest of their life in jail.

There’s black folks Still in prison for petty weed crimes, on state charges, in states where it’s legal now and has been for years

You realize those prejudices get compounded, right?

What’s the name of that highway in canada, where they raped and murdered and dumped the corpses of native women?

Never a lead on any of those cases. I don’t think one was male, but hey, maybe there were a couple

You have no idea what you’re talking about.

You ever get talked over in a conversation?

You ever get talked over in EVERY SINGLE conversation? Every Fucking Sentance?

The pay gap? Regardless of actual worth? Only getting the job in the first place because you’ve got big tits, and ALL THE OTHER WOMEN who weren’t so “well endowed” were never even considered? Oh, and the boss and over half of the male staff ARE going to sexually harass you at a minimum, and likely try to rape you.

You ever get or lose a job based on how small your dick is? We know it ain’t a shower or a grower