I think you’re thinking of the graph that shows how, if wages were tied to worker productivity, the minimum wage would be $80, but if we’re just talking inflation, the minimum wage should be ~$15-18

This is pretty common for people on the Autistic spectrum. We don’t get the guide on how to properly act around people, so we mask by emulating the people we like and want to relate to.

I’m not a doctor or a therapist, but I wouldn’t worry too much about the social chameleon thing unless it’s actively causing rifts in your friendships. Instead, it sounds like you need to work on your willingness to look for and respect other people’s boundaries so as not to appear clingy. I do want to recognize that doing that will be much harder than just speaking it aloud–it’s something I’m working on myself–but it sounds like you’ve already kind of come to that conclusion yourself already.

With the enshittification of streaming platforms, a Kodi or Jellyfin server would be a great starting point. In my case, I have both, and the Kodi machine gets the files from the Jellyfin machine through NFS.

Or Home Assistant to help keep IOT devices that tend to be more IoS. Or a Nextcloud server to try to degoogle at least a little bit.

Maybe a personal Friendica instance for your LAN so your family can get their Facebook addiction without giving their data to Meta?