My grandma, who never let anyone tell her how to live and was happiest alone in her cottage, who would yell at us to get out and dig for potatoes when she felt crowded and then hose us down and give us a lollipop before letting us back in.

An aunt, who rode a gigant bike and let me sit on the warm tank as it cooled, who’d be gone for months then reappear just as quick and would swing me around for fun, taught me to make a handstand and always let me stand on her shoulders to pick cherries.

My mom, who was busy all the time putting food on the table but would still read to each of us every night.

Fictional: Matilda, who had a need to read that was strong enough to turn magical; Belle, who was secure in herself even though it made her lonely and whispered about (also books as escape!); Ariel, who stood up to her father and ran away rather than accept being threatened for being herself.

I don’t think I had a good male role model. It did fuck me up for a long time, but I guess the bad ones did that damage more than the absence of good ones.

I see, thank you

Yeah, easier to get both angry and desolate in the evenings/nights. Also far more likely to give in to temptations, like trash food, candy, alcohol…

After a long day of being in control of oneself and making good choices, that ability gets worn out. It’s worse if I’ve had to face a lot of stress or (mentally) say no to a lot of temptations or make a lot of decisions. At the end of the day I have no more "no"s to give myself.

It also gets markedly worse if I haven’t slept, eaten, drank, been outside or taken sufficient breaks that day.

There’s also the hormonal aspect, where hormones fluctuate on a daily cycle, which I think might be the reason I crash and want a nap in the afternoon, and get hungry around 23 regardless of if I just ate or not, and is the most focused and calm before noon.

I hope he incorporated that into his set to use if the joke doesn’t get a reaction, stuff like that would definitely save a flat joke for me.

Could you explain this? I don’t know if it’s an translation error or local figure of speech where lips and assholes means something else than body parts, or if I need to know what a can of Vienna sausages is to get the joke.

Well… YOU could read papers. YOU could look up from your phone and notice the flyers.

The possibilities are there. There are other ways to get info about local events than from fb. You don’t have to wait for everyone else to pick up a paper.

Ps. I have plenty of friends and involvement, which most of my current social circle I gathered after moving alone to a new city, without using social media. I lost a lot of acquaintances by leaving fb, but none that I actually miss. My friends are the ones I put effort into keeping in touch with.

People exist offline. We’ve done so for millennia, and still do.

I have a local newspaper subscription that often have articles/info and/or ads for local shows and festivals - one can even go to the library to read it every day for free if paying isn’t in one’s budget (but I like paying for it, it’s a lot of fluff but sometimes they dig up something about how my city is being managed or mismanaged, and they have shone a light on a few desperately needed changes in local government).

I also know most venues in the area that host small bands and can check their website or get their newsletter through email.

There’s also flyers being taped up at the store, library and on maintenance boxes and poles around town for current events and activities (that’s how I found my knitting club!).

There are probably ticket vendors where you can flag certain bands or venues or maybe genres and get an email when something is booked in your area.

Just walking my city, talking to people, looking in shops and venues, and being present outside I get a ton of info about local events. I don’t miss FB. I don’t need a global mega-site to tell me what’s happening outside my own door.