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Cake day: December 3rd, 2025

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  • I think the best way might be the simplest way that achieves a consensus that sufficient nuance is considered.

    Or rather, the minimum necessary that everyone affected can use the tool proficiently to meet their needs. Most tools need regular maintenance or discarding, but cat is giving simple, so maybe cat is on to something.










  • Is it wrong to want to choose my friends?

    No, it is fine and good. You get to pick friends, that’s the point. Obviously this has some fluctuation, but they should overall be a positive value in your life.

    How do you balance doing what makes you happy with maintaining friendships, especially if your happiness and your current friend group don’t line up?

    Do what you like and make friends who do that too. Your friends should be people you have fun hanging out with. If the activity is a prerequisite then that’s that.

    Any thoughts, advice, or personal experiences would be really helpful.

    I do rock climbing, met several fun people at the gym, we climb together now. Good friends. Also took a dance class, meet a couple friends there. I do what I’m interested in and those interests being friends and connections. You can always fall back on the interests/hobbies for activities.

    No reason to maintain a friendship simply because of the label/category of “friend” because that’s not really a meaningful relationship.