• Fizz@lemmy.nz
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    21 hours ago

    Ive got the opposite problem of a lot of the comments here. When I go away alone for some time to think about things. When I come back I people genuinely care more than I do.

    When people try and ask whats going on i dont want to share anything with them because ive already thought it through and I dont want to think about it anymore and return to my daily routine.

    I dont know why this is but whenever i do something that isnt being happy or relaxed or whenever i share any thoughts or feelings that are slightly sad or negative people react like I just told them I’m considering killing myself. Then they get upset and I have to spend time and energy comforting them and reassuring them that I’m fine. So far all my partners have been like this and I’m really hoping this isnt normal because it makes me not want to find another relationship.

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      13 hours ago

      If it helps at all, I was in this situation in my former long term relationship and my current partner isn’t like that in the slightest.

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        11 hours ago

        That is reassuring. I’ll have to do something to filter those people out like cry on the first date lol.

        • MonkRome@lemmy.world
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          9 hours ago

          That is likely to scare away even people that would be fine with it 2 months in. Most people are not trying to become your therapist on day 1.