Mine was from my mother: “Never cry for a man. He’ll never cry for you.”

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    Dad was teaching my sister and I to cross the street and told us to look both ways.

    We were crossing a one-way road at the time and I asked “Do we need to look both ways on a one-way road?”

    He said “People are idiots, you look both ways.”

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      This summer. Twice. Crossing a one way street just as a car goes zooming through in the wrong direction

      And its corollary. Never assume a red light will stop the cars. Always look.

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      Also very helpful when you travel to countries with left-hand traffic (or right-hand traffic depending on which way you are used to). The first couple days cars are constantly coming from the wrong side.

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    Whenever someone gifts you something, just say “Thank you very much” and accept the gift. Don’t do the “are you sure” or “oh no you shouldn’t have” dance.

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      Lmao that’s every Chinese New Year ever. The red packet exchange is just so awkward and weird (IMO) and completely pointless.

      Like Family A’s parents gives Family B’s kid $100 then Family B’s parents give Family A’s two children each $50 (totalling $100). Then when they go home, the parents “ask” (read: demand) the kid to give them the money for “safekeeping”. So… like… wtf is the point. This is why I don’t like the idea of “tradition”, conservatives be weird af. Like, at one point, I just stop caring when they give it to me and I’m like “just give it to mom” lol.

      Red Packet exchange is just glorified Money PingPong games.

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        Yes but… If there’s something you don’t understand, it’s better to ask about it ahead of time rather than later, after everyone assumed you understood the situation.

        You can definitely come out looking like more of an idiot by waiting till the last second to clarify a misunderstanding.

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    In fifth grade my teacher retired halfway through the year. He did nothing wrong, it was just his time to retire. So he taught half the year while training his replacement to take over. He is one of the best teachers I ever had.

    On his last day he left us with this piece of advice.

    “Credit Cards are a scam.” Then he explained in detail how they can be used to trap you in debt and keep you struggling. He said always use cash when you can, otherwise don’t buy what you can’t afford.

    That was the only financial advice I ever got in all of my 12 years of schooling.

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      The problem is that credit cards can be useful, but you need to have a certain mindset with money to have them. If money is an one-off switch instead of a number, you’re going to be ruined by debt.

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    “assigning blame is the most useless reaction to disaster. Do damage control and then move on.”

    My parents used to blame each other a lot when they were fighting. When my friends mess up something, I will them that it’s annoying, and then figure out how to deal with it. But I’ll never make them feel bad for it, because it’s just wasted energy.

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    In grade school I remember looking up at a brightly colored sign above the door that read, “you are not your circumstance.” Decades later, I still think about it as a reminder to treat myself and others a little better.

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    “Don’t believe everything you read in books.” - my religious dad

    Learned pretty early on not to believe a certain book. Woops

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    Adults: Don’t touch, the wood stove is hot.

    Toddler Me: [touches anyway] hot! Hot!

    I still have the scar.

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    Literal translation it is a bit funnier in original:
    “If you’re bored, sharpen a stick and stick it up your butt so you resemble a donkey more.”
    Basically there is 0 reason to be bored in this life.

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    Not in a good way but: “crying never solved anything.” It might not be a full solution but it sure is a relief. Still can’t cry to this day without feeling guilty about it.

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      It’s a relief valve. Sometimes when I find myself overwhelmed and feel like I want to collapse, I’ll go watch a bunch of emotional videos to make myself bawl for an hour or two. It’s extremely cathartic, and I usually feel a lot better afterwards.

      My go-to videos are Thai commercials on YouTube. Short, super heart-wrenching, and unimportant enough that I don’t feel bad afterwards like if I watched a sad movie like Schindler’s List or Grave of the Fireflies.

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    you don’t always have to be right, but you do always need to be correct.

    meaning, you pick the things you argue to be right about but you should always do things correctly the first time.