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Neurodivergents be like: “Wait people don’t want to know this? That’s absurd. So anyway, what I was saying was…”
How many “Men” are just ND?
How many “Men” are just ND?
None. Men are cool to hate, get with the program.
This is the type of attitude that makes me not talk to humans. Sure I might know something about it but if I tell you then I am an asshole apparently. So…figure it out yourself.
Just ask if they wanna know
In my experience, nobody has any problem with you sharing your knowledge with them if (1) you’re an actual expert (and not just an “armchair expert”, (2) they actually want or need someone to tell them the information they’re looking for, and (3) you express it courteously and kindly.
In pretty much any case, you’re not likely to ever get good results if #2 isn’t true. Maybe they want to figure it out themselves. Maybe they don’t actually care. Maybe they’re making a joke that people who really are experts would get!
Even if you don’t have #1, you can get a long way with #3 (especially if you frame it as you’re a fellow learner sharing what you’ve gleaned so far, such as by giving them info and asking for something in return—“oh, I found out that you can do X and it works really well, but I could never figure out Y, how’d you do that?!”).
It would be cool if we could keep sexism off lemmy. This isn’t reddit.
“Mansplaining” is sexist. It’s the equivalent of saying women are airheads, or gossips, or talk too much.
Is each man expected to just… Assume that everyone else shares their exact knowledge? Would such an assumption not therefore eliminate most communication entirely?
Or what if we decided to divide up groups by something other than gender. Would it be okay to say “asiansplaining” or “jewsplaining” or “gaysplaoning”?
Can a trans-man mansplaining? Can a trans-woman mansplain? Is there a separate category of “transplaining”?
Here’s an example of “mansplaining”: I’ve been beekeeping for close to ten years. A gentleman joined our group recently who has had maybe a few months’ experience. Wearing a brand new bee suit and gloves, he proceeded to tell me how to carry out a basic hive inspection. He was not assuming I shared his exact knowledge, he was assuming I knew even less than him.
The term mansplaining came about because it encapsulates a very common scenario. I know a few chaps who constantly explain stuff to me that I know a lot more about than they do, and in a very condescending way. One old codger even patted me on the head and said, “A young thing like you wouldn’t know about MS-DOS.” I bought my first computer in 1984.
I haven’t found mansplaining as prevalent among young men, I must say. They seem more open and egalitarian in their approach, more respectful. Though a friend told me, “It’s because you remind them of their granny.”
And yes, women can mansplain
