Wow, this comment section is a nightmare
Don’t even think about going there, they’ll kidnap you and sell you for your organs, if not worse, it’s not worth it.
I wholeheartedly refute the assertion this comic makes that the word ‘lock’ is onomatopoeic.
i think lock is an onomatopoeia and I vote
Reminds me of a story. Four scientists, all male, on an expedition in Antarctica, far from any other human being. They set up camp, establish the data link to sync their email, and one of them gets an email spam of the sort “hot women in your area”. The next human female was several hundred kilometers away…
Honestly so happy I’m married, I’m sorry for all of y’all. Dystopian times.
But hey to add my two cents: I think that fear is marketable, so women are over fed on paranoia.
At the same time, porn and propaganda have put bad expectations in some percentile of dumb men.
Both sexes are generally out of social practice, and societal trust is at an all time low. Most people are nice, but most people are also awkward.
So get out there and meet some people, don’t even do so romantically, just go learn how to interact with people, form some friendships.
came back to this thread to find discourse that ISN’T cancer. thank you for your sane and gentle response. if more people had your empathy, less of them would be single and hurting.
But hey to add my two cents: I think that fear is marketable, so women are over fed on paranoia.
This is the case with literally everything.
Used to hear about “no-go zones” in Stockholm in my local news a lot, areas where even the Swedish police were afraid to go in to. Then a friend of mine moved to Stockholm and started going to “the worst no-go zone” every weekend to get fresh produce. The only time he felt in danger was when he stumbled upon a drunk countryman.
Going out nowadays doesn’t work anymore. Things have changed dramatically in the last few decades.
Well what defines going out? There are plenty of board game meet ups, even if you don’t especially like board games I would posit that it’s not an objectively negative experience; so if you must hold you nose and go anyway, do so.
Secondly, although this is coming from my experience in America, so your millage may vary, there’s tons of outdoor activities and groups: go for a hike, go backpacking.
You don’t need special equipment, you don’t need to buy anything. Just a water bottle, backpack, tent/tarp, and some non perishable foods and you’re good to go.
It’s true that the convenient third places of yesterday have seemingly vanished; but people are still out there.
I used to hike a lot but these days it’s incredibly difficult to find people to hike with, they’re usually at least twenty years older than me and not in the best shape anymore which rules out difficult routes. And everywhere else there are masses of stupid tourists and influencers stumbling around in their flip-flops (Because of course you wear flip-flops in the alps!), throwing trash everywhere and yelling into their smartphones when filming themselves which ruins the experience. Board and card game groups also died out in the early 2010s, that was just a short hype. A lot of things disappeared without replacement.
Hmm well I can’t speak for Europe, but plenty of chill people to go hiking with in the US, plus it might not be the most challenging stuff maybe but I’ve hiked out of the grand canyon with my friends 70 yo grandma so if you want the social aspect you can still do challenging things just maybe go a little slower. Also again don’t know about Europe but there are like five weekly board game meetups in my decent sized city.
Isn’t the Grand Canyon also overrun with tourists and influencers?
Going out to talk with people is now impossible because everyone busy for themselves .
Can I share this in !Womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone or !witchesvspatriarchy@lemmy.ca
Of course. It’s not mine, cross post/share away!
Awesome thanks 😊
Sure, why not?
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men bad
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Honestly I don’t see what makes chasing after women so special, you men have better things to do in your lives.
So go out there & enjoy your hobbies. Stop wasting your time with this nonsense & trust me; you men will still be hated but at least you’ll be educated.
Chasing is only fun for predators. That’s why it’s such a frustrating and unfulfilling experience for the majority of men.
Chasing is fun, if you do it right.
Go out, learn some new hobbies, try new things. Make a point to at least try some things you don’t like. Make new friends, and you’ll probably find someone who is equally happy to find you. The chase can be fun, but don’t chase a person, chase happiness, run with the pack, and find the one who is running with you.
Sharing hobbies is not what I would call chasing, that’s just basic social skills. Chasing is pretty much all the pick-up artist stuff. But honestly, I find people of today extremely boring, especially young people. The most complex hobby they have is doing workout to look fit and even that is done on a very superficial level. Nobody makes art anymore or is into philosophy or psychology. It’s all just about consuming memes and TikTok slop or pretending to be creative by using AI or joining the current virtue signaling/slacktivism hypetrain on social media. That’s why I prefer to talk to older people, you can sit down with them in a café and talk for hours about plenty of topics without ever looking at a smartphone. But it’s not easy to find them, they don’t go out much either for similar reasons. Society has changed a lot in the last decades and all I can do is to accept that and cherish those rare occasions.
New generations aren’t required to appreciate the culture of older generations.
Frankly, I think the half-perm half macklemore high sided buzzcut fuccboi look is dumb, and it makes people look like pomped up poodles, but they aren’t getting those haircuts to be attractive to millennials. I imagine this is what my parents thought when every guy in my generation had spiked hair with bleached tips… So let them be alien to you, it’s totally normal. You don’t have to understand, but you should give them space to be themselves.
We didn’t have much better haircuts back then either. But we had more diversity. This is also one of those things I miss, the countless subcultures which led to interesting social dynamics. When was the last time you saw punks and hip hop enjoyers partying together in a park?
I’m not trying to take space away from young people by any means. I actually tried the opposite. It didn’t work and I moved on.
When was the last time you saw punks and hip hop enjoyers partying together in a park?
Never, but that’s because I spent most of my youth playing video games, or running around in the woods hitting my siblings with sticks.
or is into philosophy or psychology
That makes people fun?
I find people of today extremely boring, especially young people
I think you should take a look at yourself before you call a generation that is experiencing the highest cost of living in modern history, boring.
Computers and music instruments are ridiculously cheap compared to the eighties and nineties. I had to build stuff with broken parts I found in trash (like everybody else who wasn’t rich so the majority of users) and still managed to make much better music with all that Frankenstein equipment than the average young AI slop “artist” of today. And you’re also proving my point regarding philosophy and psychology or anything else that needs more than a few seconds to process. Fits perfectly with studies about declining attention spans.
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That makes people fun?
Yes, talking to people about something deeper than “lol, look at this meme” is fun.
I think you should take a look at yourself before you call a generation that is experiencing the highest cost of living in modern history, boring.
WTF does one have to do with the other…? Are you suggesting that people have zero interests outside of social media because of high cost of living?
You do realise that libraries are free? That getting a used guitar will cost you all of $50? That getting a pencil and a notebook to start drawing will be, what, $5? Oh yeah, you can even get a pencil for free at an Ikea.
Predators like you.
You are the epitome of “Look ladies, I’m your one true good man” energy.
UPDATE: Ooof a quick dislike huh, maybe I touched a nerve
Yeah, I know. I’ve been called a rapist for refusing to have sex with women several times. Because that’s what predators do.
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Men looking for women as romantic partners is like searching for potable water in a desert.
When looking for men as romantic partners is like searching for potable water in a SWAMP.
Think you mean ocean, you can get very clean water from bogs
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This is hilarious because women are purchasing concert tickets of a savage woman beater, Chris Brown, until they’re sold out. He has a sold out show in Toronto tonight.
I guess if you can dance, sing, and look good, women will let you beat other women while they buy tickets to your show.
Honestly I just bought my ticket to see the concert venue that seats 4 billion people
Let me introduce to you: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hybristophilia
How come str8s don’t consult with their local LGBTQ+ friendos? I like playing matchmaker.
Because it doesn’t work. It’s already bad enough with straight people doing it.
Gotta have local friendos first…
(cries in very high cost of living, old rich people area)
Because with the possible exception of the bi’s, you’re all inherently unqualified for the job of setting up a heterosexual relationship. Why don’t you ask straight men to pick out sweaters? Because we’re bad at it at an anatomical level.
Yep, that’s just how it is these days. Let me ask though, does it really matter?
If the girls are afraid of the guys, that’s their problem, not yours. Stick the time into something else you enjoy, let nature run it’s course. Find a job you don’t hate, spend your money as you like, live a happy life without the anxiety of rejection.
We’re finally approaching some twisted semblance of equality via men becoming afraid of women in return ._.
Men who took the lesson to heart:
Ladies don’t want to talk to you.
They don’t want you to approach them.
They don’t want you to initiate social interaction.
Men need to be less visible, less audible, overall less perceptible, because this coincides with them being less obnoxious.Instead of teaching them to act in less obnoxious ways, society taught them to act less–period.
And so, I now see unironic posts showing up on social media of women asking each other (paraphrased),
“Why don’t men ever talk to me anymore?”
“Why don’t men ever approach me anymore?”
“Even when I see men in public, they never even acknowledge me. Why are they ignoring me? What is going on?”A lot of folks heard the pleas of women wishing men would just leave them alone. And a fair proportion of the men acquiesced.
I mean, yeah, SOME didn’t, and became even more obnoxious, but the chronically unfuckable bootlicking simps of the fascist grift are more miserable now than they’ve ever been; The few that “seem” “successful” are just poster children of survivorship bias, pied pipers leading the naive and highly suggestible to self-inflicted ruin.
I have divested myself of this bizarre tragedy of errors. Humans are humans. I treat humans like humans. If other people project weird freaky intentions upon me while I’m JUST trying to mind my own gods damned business existing within line of sight and vague proximity, that’s THEIR skill issue. AT LEAST nonbinary asexual persons never get weird at me like the ones vested in all the maladaptive notions and festooned in toxic stereotypes… and it’s refreshing. Good riddance to all the outdated reproductive caste dynamics. Good riddance to the gilded cage of having to drag-perform whatever the fuck I was assigned at birth.
Ladies don’t want to talk to you. They don’t want you to approach them. They don’t want you to initiate social interaction. Men need to be less visible, less audible, overall less perceptible, because this coincides with them being less obnoxious.
And that is correct. This is how you manage to appear less obnoxious and threatening as a man. This is how you seperate yourself from the predators and machos. It also helps men avoiding problematic women as well. It’s a win-win.
So to meet women, never talk to them or look at them or even think about them, got it, sounds effective.
Give women space and limit yourself to reactions if they approach you. Always assume they’re not interested. Do not approach them, that’s predatory behavior.
Be seen but not heard, got it.
Just avoid behavior that is associated with predatory types. Imagine a spectrum with one extreme being “I couldn’t care less” and the other being “I’m going to chase you”. Choose the center. Civil and slightly friendly but not let’s-be-friends friendly. Like a coworker you don’t know and who works in a different department but you see each other sometimes. Be friendly enough to not make things awkward if you meet again. The rest is up to the woman.
Here’s the thing, you man-hater. Men are considered sub-humans just for existing
Does making lemonade out of the lemons life gives you make you hate oranges? No.
I rather throw those lemons back & watch you make lemonade.
Thanks!
does it really matter?
Does a dysfunctional society matter?
Fun fact, by doing the above, you’ll end up meeting women who don’t feel that way and are relationship material, and plenty of acquaintances who think you “don’t count” because you’re “one of the good ones”.
who think you “don’t count” because you’re “one of the good ones”.
Oh that’s cool, I know a lot of black people like that.
“Wait what? Wdym that’s racist? But I should accept ‘one of the good ones’ when it applies to me? I’m too ND for this bullshit.”
That’s why they’re acquaintances, rather than friends. I agree with your assessment. I can’t consider someone a friend who assumes I’m a piece shit until proven otherwise because of my immutable characteristics. Tangentially, I also can’t consider someone a friend who thinks hell is real and that a perfectly just god will send me there. Needless to say I have a small but close friend circle.
You either accept being one of the good ones or you end up being one of the bad ones.
And me saying that to black people when they get mad I said they’re one of the good ones isn’t racist? 'Cause…
You can’t change other people. You can’t change society. You can’t change human nature. All you can do is to work with what the world gives you. All you can do is to adjust yourself. So you accept the sexism and racism and classism and ageism etc and find workrounds to make it through somehow to hopefully end up being mostly perceived as one of the good ones. Making lemonade out of the lemons life gives you. Screaming at the world to give you oranges will only cause the world to stop giving you lemons and then you have no more lemonade and a sore throat too.
When god gives you lemons you find a new god.
you’ll end up meeting women
Do I want to?
I’m posing a broader question about society to clarify a general concern with no particular motivation, and you make it about meeting women. That suggests something about assumed motivations in these discussions.
Huh? This literally what the meme is about and you are having a discussion in it’s comment section beneath?
The comic may be and so may the comment I was replying to. The question, however, isn’t: people may have more on their minds than the pursuit of women, eg, the state of humanity.
Moreover, the comic is about multiple things. The man sees an invitation to meet women. The woman sees a warning.
It makes as much sense to ask about this discrepancy, messages, norms.
Not overly much - society has “dysfunctioned” along perfectly well for millennia. It will continue to be dysfunctional for many more millennia.
Better to enjoy your life and spite that dysfunction than to live under its heel.
if girls are afraid of guys, that’s my problem
I understand you but I want to continue being grossed out by the idea of people thinking I am a rapist. Purely because I don’t want to be desensitized to this subject.
This is kind of like how parents don’t let their kids play out anymore because the news told us it’s all pedophiles out there.
Yeah, all the pedophiles are in the church and government.
Single X in my area. Uses the plural form.
Well, which is it?!??
Took me longer than I’d care to admit.
