• MeatPilot@lemmy.worldEnglish
    12·
    11 hours ago

    I have always said when you really think about statements your relatives/friends make, they are just nice ways of saying really personal topics.

    Nice: Isn’t it time for you to work on having a baby?
    Unfiltered: Are you going to get rawdogged a few times until your eggs get fertilized?

    Nice: Boy it must have been a cold winter.
    Unfiltered: You fucked a lot 9 months before September didn’t you?

    Nice: You should experience being a parent! We can have playdates together.
    Unfiltered: You should have a child so you can understand the horror I went through and we can trauma bond.

  • ButteryMonkey@piefed.socialEnglish
    4·
    10 hours ago

    One of the few reasons I’m glad I don’t have living parents.

    I think my mom would have understood tho. She also never wanted kids and had 2 and sucked at it (she didn’t have my sister intentionally, and should have stopped, but then had me on purpose, and I got all her autism and all my dads adhd! So I was fun to raise!) and is why I got my tubes tied before ever being pregnant.

    But in fairness all of the dudes I’ve dated… their moms have been like yeah I wouldn’t want to raise kids with my kid either, don’t blame you.

  • AmazingAwesomator@lemmy.world
    14·
    11 hours ago

    i have no idea how many times i had to tell my parents and grandparents that we have decided to not have children, but over the course of ~6-8ish years, it was consistently asked more than once every time we saw each other.

    was not a big fan of having other people’s wants being thrust into my life as if they are more important than my own.

    thankfully, still kid free at 41.

  • lordnikon@lemmy.worldEnglish
    19·
    14 hours ago

    I see not having children is a form of harm reduction at this point. We only have a few more years before we are choking on dust storms and famine. I don’t want to put a child through that.

    I will be the first person to be happy to be proven wrong and do what i can to try and not have that happen but I’m not willing to gamble the suffering of my child on it not happening.

    • FilthyShrooms@lemmy.world
      7·
      12 hours ago

      I have the same thoughts. Until the world starts to improve (I doubt it will) I can’t bring a life into this world knowing they’ll have to suffer. If I find myself in a position where I really want kids, then I’ll adopt and make someone else’s life better (hopefully)

      • lordnikon@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        12 hours ago

        Great answer with regards to the adoption. reduction of suffering is our generation’s only option.

  • Treczoks@lemmy.world
    21·
    16 hours ago

    There is this short moment in time between “Don’t you touch my daughter” and “when will we have grandchildren”…

  • shalafi@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    11 hours ago

    Meh, I get it. They want babies again, babies that are very much their own. Also, we hope to correct the mistakes we made with brood 1.0.

    My kids are 10 and 12 so I probably won’t live long enough to see grand kids, but I sure ain’t pressing the issue.